“There is only one pretty child in the world, and every mother has it.” Chinese proverb
Same idea?! It's because this young woman is doing it right! A bit OTT? No! Love never hurts ... it's the opposite that does ....
When I was pregnant with my first child, I went out and bought all the parenting books on the market. Those that aim to 'teach' you what is good parenthood and the 'how to' ... written by Dr this and Dr that, they tell you 'how to' things ... sleep the child on their front, no, wrong, sleep them on their backs ... don't pick them up or they'll get used to being carried and a little, or a lot, of crying is ok! ... and 'oh, no!' was my first impression! I will let my child sleep how they want to sleep! ... and I wondered why were all these books written by males?! Then after a little read, I decided to do away with the lot and learn from my cat instead ... and I never regretted this decision once ....
Look! No cot!
As soon as a litter is born, mum will spend a whole week stuck to those kids, wake up with them, sleep with them, being in real close contact with them, feeding and licking them and only leaving the 'nest' when she needs to eat or for other needs, but then you see her running back to resume this intense bodily contact soon as she's finished doing what she needed to do when she left them.
Even when she needs to leave them for those brief moments, she will always pile them up in a ball! And I used to think, those at the bottom of the pile will get suffocated ... but they never do! ... amazing! And the reason mama cat is doing that is to give her young the illusion she is still there, so that the can sleep tight secure in the knowledge that they are loved and protected ...
A week later, and when those kids are a bit stronger, mum will come out of that nest and will never go back to it again! If those kids want her milk, her warmth and the security of being close to mum, they have to come out themselves ... and when they do ... they get their deserved reward ... it's fun, fun, fun, it's play time together! And when they are a little older still, it's fun time with mum too ... for mum then becomes one of the kids, perhaps the naughtiest one too ....
... and you think, the silly cat! She's too big, and she's too muscly for those delicate kids, she is going to hurt them ... but she never does ....
Then, when big enough ... sanity returns and mum will push those kids away ... well, it's time for kids to be independent ... and she makes sure they are ... even beat them up for real if she has to ... but only for a while, then she becomes friendly again ... with bits of kisses and cuddles here and there too ....
All other animal species do the same too ... except us humans! Why?! Because we're the only species that have Dr this and Dr that writing books and telling us how to do things! ... the only species that cancels it's instinct and relies on what 'experts' who most probably are males, hence, have never experienced motherhood instead! Is that clever or wot?! And the result? Many of our species are incapable of showing their own emotions to the degree that they should, either towards their own families or to others! Result? We are the only species who have formulated and follow a ridiculous set for rules that can sometimes drive us to despair! Our own doing too!
And we're so jealous of the animals! Look at how at every opportunity we're full of kisses and cuddles with them .... if only we did that more to our own! Life on earth would be sooo different ....
And the interaction does give us great pleasure and enormous satisfaction, that's why we keep pets ... and moan all the times that they give us more love than any human can ... but we never learn! What aaan irony!
Well, I did away with Dr this and Dr that's books - and although I had bought a baby cot, it was given away at a near to new condition! ... and you know, sometimes when I am in a supermarket and I hear those kids scream their heads off while mum is turning a blind eye because she thinks she's doing the right thing according to some 'xperts' - and with all the unneccessary frustration, I always find it hard to resist the temptation to go tell her; " pick them up and cuddle them - smother them with love and talk to them, make that a habit and they'll never scream again!" ... maybe even make the jobs of people like the good Dr CC, a child psychiatrist, nearly obsolete. This is the doctor who, amongst other reasons, has to pick up the pieces after the bond between mum and child is lost because of the damage caused by Dr this and Dr that - the phycologist 'experts' who write all those books on parenthood!
... and she can't afford a push chair, or a cot ... and where she goes, child goes with her ....
... no screaming child here ....
... and maybe why those societies are better at communicating and sticking together, young and old?
... and do they know of cot death?
All the better for humanity too ....
... and if love of all kinds is but a string of chemical cocktails, then I hope, while observing the common laws of decency because we are still humans after all, that these chemicals will be manufactured on a large scale soon and be injected intravenously to all those in need, because they were, for one reason or the other, deprived of motherly love in childhood ... in large doses too! ... but, that's another topic? No, you get plenty of love when child, you give out plenty of love when adult! Simple as that!
... and, does anybody have any idea how long is the life span of a yeast cell? How long is 2 minutes in real terms for them? eh? Cos how they understand love is waaay OTT, don't you think?! .... :-)
BBC 31 July 2010 [Baby bonding] ...
“The remembrance of a beloved mother becomes a shadow to all our actions; it precedes or follows them”
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